If we go outside on a sunny day and put on sunglasses, all we see will be colored accordingly.
It’s the same with a person’s motivational gift. A perceiver looks at life through a perceiver’s eyes. Everything looks good or bad, right or wrong, in God’s will or out of God’s will. The perceiver cannot see life any other way.
A server, on the other hand, approaches life thinking, “What can I do to help in this situation?” He constantly sees opportunities to do things for others.
A teacher searches for truth in everything he encounters. Like the persistent Diogenes of Greek literature, searching with a lantern for an honest man, the teacher persistently seeks, investigates, analyzes, and researches. 
An exhorter sees opportunities to encourage people, to build them up. Exhorters always approach life positively.
The giver looks for ways to invest his time, talent, energy, money, and resources to provide for the needs of others and/or to advance the Gospel.
The administrator’s broad vision grasps the overall perspective of a situation. Administrators naturally want to organize or lead. 
The person of compassion recognizes hurts and wounds needing healing and sees endless opportunities to express love.
Yet each one may think, “Why don’t others see things the way I see them? It’s so clear to me!”
The family setting always holds the potential for great conflict and hurts when there is a misunderstanding. Those outside the family usually cannot hurt us as deeply. Many conflicts within the family arise because its members fail to discern each other’s gifts. Conflicts between family members disappear quickly as each discovers his own gifts and begins to make room for the gifts of others.